Relationships
Salam,
Hope you are well.
I am a student and 17 years old, and I am stuck in a dilemma.
I have been talking to this boy from the past 8 months and he claims that he really loves me. However, I do not want to get married until I finish my study which is 25 and I told him this. He says that’s fine we can get married at 25 but I know that he Wundt wait that long because that is 7 years which is a long time.
I told him I don’t want to be in a haram relationship and he says okay, but he always messages me. I have tried blocking him like millions of times past few months and he keeps making fake accounts and messaging me saying he really really loves me and wants to wait for me. Due to this, I keep feeling guilty and going back to him cause he says he really loves me and he says wallahi he will marry me.
However, I have seen red flags, for example him asking me to link me and he wants to touch me.
What do I do, please advise me, I am stuck and I keep wasting my time and I have tried blocking past few months but he keeps chasing me which makes me feel bad because I keep thinking that he actually loves me.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Wa ‘alaykum us-salāmu wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Dear daughter,
May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala protect you from the harms of this and the next world.
Girls are impressionable hence easily manipulated.
We strongly recommend that you stay away from this haram relationship even if intentions are pure.
Haram brings Allah jalla jalaluhu’s wrath and displeasure. It devoids life of blessings.
Please do not anger your immortal loving Rabb for a mortal who is suspicious.
Ask him to propose, if he does then consider marriage and continue studies after marriage.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best