Mother consistently makes bad dua on me and now it is coming true

08 Mar 2023 Ref-No#: 5072

asalamualakum,

i hope all is well with you.
this message is about my mother. Ever since I was younger my mother never loved me. My father even told me that when she knew she was pregnant with a girl she threw a huge tantrum. Once I grew up a bit my mother never showed love to me since I had dark skin and dark hair like my father. I never remembered the last time my mother loved me. Today I’m a student who graduated and is now studying for an entrance exam. I do help my mother with the house such as cook,clean, and help out with my younger siblings. Anytime she calls me names like pig, prostitute, no ones going to marry you because your to ugly I just ignore her. She also give ghathib to me and I am confused why. I try my best to make a connection but it seems like she has a type of jealousy towards me from my success. She even went to umrah and made dua against me there and now I worry about my safety. I took the entrance exam and failed and now I’m studying for a retake. She still continues to make ghathib on me during the night and she even made dua against my own children who don’t exist yet. What have my children done to her? I now worry because Allah is making all her duas come true and my faith is now decreasing since he makes such people duas come true. I worry about my faith now and wonder why does allah make her duas come true. I listen to whatever she needs and if she calls my name I go straight to her. Also I’m the only one she does this to and she treats my other siblings with such respect because they look different. she makes the best duas for them and that hurts me even more considered on why I’m miss treated. what should I do I feel stuck.

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salām wa raḥmatullāhi wa barākatuhu,

You need to continue to fulfil your duties to your mother. You should continue to respect and serve her. Allāh will not accept her curses.

It is only an assumption that the difficulties that you are experiencing is due to the curses of your mother. Everthing experience adverse conditions. This world is a place of trial and test. Be patient and continue to do good.

Remember that the judge who will decide whether to accept her prayers or not is Allāh. And Allāh is very merciful. If you do good, Allāh will not let it go to waste. Allāh knows of your good and will prefer your good over your mother’s injustice. That does not mean that you will not face difficulties. Everyone experiences hardship from time to time.

Do good, and ignore her mood.

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