If your parents reject a man just because he is younger than you with no other reasons what should you do?
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh, A man which I knew when I was little & grew up with we always loved each other ever since we were little but that man is 2 years younger than me and later when we grew up he proposed to me, my parents want to reject him because he is younger than me, while he is religious and Alim & Hafiz, what should I do? because i really love him and i will keep thinking about him if i get married to someone else.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Wa ‘alaykum us-salāmu wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Dear daughter,
Age should be considered but is not necessary. Your parents should consider your inclinations
According to the Hanafi school of thought, a mature woman (baaligha) may marry in her kufu (compatibility/suitability) without the consent of her wali (guardian).
However, it is not advisable due to the many complications that may arise due to the woman’s inexperience and ignorance.
Also, parents blessings is very important for Barakah in marriage.
Age should be considered but is not necessary. Your parents should consider your inclinations.
Ask a respected family member to reason with your father and convince him to change his decision.
Meanwhile, in obedience to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala follow the path of modesty. Not everything in this world happens according to our will but to the will of Allah almighty. Your nikah, to whoever has Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala destined will be a source of real love, peace and barakah.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best