Divorce and RUJU
I live in UK, But I am from Pakistan.
My husband gave me second divorce on 18 days ago and he said that he gave me this devils with full intention because his first fight was and his all family was pressurising him. and he had full attention and know that I will be still his wife. but he need ruju and for that he needs two evidence means two men who will be the witness of RUJU.
my question is he delay RUJU as he said his first wife have some concerns. and he have his wedding anniversary with first wife so after that he will do RUJU .
I asked him about my needs because he came almost everyday and sleep with me hug me kiss me but don’t do any intercourse. and he say it’s RUJU. I am in pain because I really don’t know he will give me divorce or not. he is using me or what. because he talked to me and point out any silly thing for example why I didn’t give him phone in his hand. so he torture me for this and don’t talk to me and say different things those hurt me a lot and he said we can’t work out. and after that he says I’m not sure what I will do with you I will give you third divorce or I will stay with you I don’t know. moreover he is saying he can’t afford rent of this house so move to I sharing room. however I don’t feel safe in sharing rooms because I’m living in UK. I want to live with him but I don’t know what he is doing with my life. he came and he play with my body but he don’t do intercourse.
Answer
Assalāmuʿalaykum Wa Raḥmatullāhī W Barakātuh
We wish to express our heartfelt condolences to you and make Duʿā that Allāh ﷻ eases your situation in the best way possible.
It is correct that if after issuing a Ṭalāq to you, he had displayed intimacy and affection during your ʿIddah by means of fondling or a kiss, then it would constitute Rujūʿ.
Furthermore, we advise that you discuss with him your concerns and feelings. Alternatively, you may contact a local upright religious scholar to act as a mediator thereby intervening and assisting in resolving all current issues.