my father tried to molest my 8+yr old daughter…
Assalamualikum
my father tried to molest my 8+yr old daughter… he touched her on her private parts over her clothes & kissed her on the lips… my daughter was so petrified & disgusted that she recently told me all this crying…
In past, My father has attempted to do this with many women in our house… like my aunts & his nieces… also the maids of our house
Despite of knowing this fact… everyone at my house just stayed quite & ignored this disgusting act of his
I never thought my father being 70+ yrs old will go beyond his boundaries & do something like this to my own daughter… who loved & cared so much for their grandparents.
I’m very disturb after knowing about this
1. I have left all my matter in the court of Allah swt
2. As a human being I believe I cannot punish anyone beyond my limits… Allah swt is the one who will decide everyone’s affairs
3. Offcourse I would never ever let my children meet him again
4. pls can you tell me with being in the boundaries of our deen how much can I distance from my father… I feel like not meeting him ever again
5. I want to tell about this incident to my siblings… so that they are warned & be careful in my fathers presence with there children… but it will create hatred in there heart… so should I do so
Jazakallahu khairan
Answer
Wa’alaykum as Salam wa raḥmatullāhi wa barakātuhu,
If a father touch or grandparent does such a disgusting sin, then to protect oneself from him, and to protect him from doing such ow actions, it is best that you stay away and keep a distance from meeting him privately. It is fine to keep contact via phone calls or Whatsapp messages.
If you ever meet him in a public place, you should verbally great him. There should be no touching.
If you have nieces and they are vulnerable, then their parents should be warned.