Marriage with a Mental Disorder
Aslm
I am currently 20 and have been diagnosed with Schizoid Personality Disorder which means I tend not to want to be around others as well as not being able to communicate.It also makes me not care about others which is a bad trait as a spouse.I have also read that many with this disorder always end up in a divorce or have marriage issues.I don’t think I will be able to get married due to this condition.
The main issue is that I do not want to commit Haram such as fornication as I get older and closer to the age of 24 or 25 when it is time for me to get married.
Do I just try my best to avoid the Haram and keep making dua that this disorder can possibly be cured in someway?
Please help me
Jzk
Answer
Wa ʿAlaykumus Salām Wa Raḥmatullāhi Wa Barakātuh
At the very onset, we would like to mention that every person is different. It is not necessary that if you pursue the path of marriage that it will end up in a divorce or having to face other marital issues. It does not mean that if that had happened to many with the same condition then likewise it will happen to you. It does not mean that ‘many’ according to the author of what you have read is in actual fact ‘many’ in respect to the world Muslim population. The information which you have come across may also have the possibility of being untrue.
Furthermore, it is the duty of every person, being sane and mature, to refrain from Ḥarām, irrespective of his condition. Likewise, it is the duty of every such person to invoke Allāh ﷻ for all his needs, be it in relation to this world or the hereafter.
We advise you to pursue the path of marriage, whilst at the same time making clear mention of your condition when going to see a prospective spouse.
You may also consider seeking medical attention and undergoing prescribed and necessary treatments.