Wants to know how to cope with his life

30 Jun 2021 Ref-No#: 3061

Assalamu alaykum.Sheikh,i’m a very young boy who lives with my parents.Currently,we are living in a very straitened situation.This cause me depression everyday.I don’t have enough money to neither live a good life nor practice the religion.This has a great impact on my life.I’m 17years old.Anytime,i start to do any voluntary act of worship,then i would eventually stop.By time,this cycle continues to repeat itself.I’m fed up.I even suffer from OCD in wudhoo’.Recently i tried to memorize some chapters of the quran but i don’t have any support to do that.No friends!No teacher! not even a token amount to buy a phone and listen to recitation.Sheikh,i need your advice.I can’t continue my life like this.I want to be amongst those who would be under the shade of Allad on the day of qiyaamah.My youthful days of wasting!


Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

We understand that you are struggling with three things:

  1. Lack of finance,
  2. OCD,
  3. No support.

As for finance, rest assured the sustenance is in the hands of Allah. With firm conviction, you should implore Allah to open the doors for you.  Constantly recite the following supplications which are established from Hadith:

اَللّٰہُمَّ اكْفِنِىْ بِحَلَالِكَ عَنْ حَرَامِكَ وَ اَغْنِنِىْ بِفَضْلِكَ عَمَّنْ سِوَاكَ

Allahummak Finee bi Halaalika an Haraamik. Wa aghnini bi fadhlika amman siwaak.

Translation: O Allah! Make Your permissible sustenance sufficient for me (so that I stay away) from the prohibited. And by Your grace, make me independent of everyone else besides You.”

اللَّهُمَّ مَالِكَ الْمُلْكِ، تُؤْتِي الْمُلْكَ مَنْ تَشَاءُ، وَتَنْزِعُ الْمُلْكَ مِمَّنْ تَشَاءُ، وَتُعِزُّ مَنْ تَشَاءُ، وَتُذِلُّ مَنْ تَشَاءُ، بِيَدِكَ الْخَيْرُ، إِنَّكَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ، رَحْمان الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ تُعْطِيهمَا مَنْ تَشَاءُ، وَتَمْنَعُ مِنْهُمَا مَنْ تَشَاءُ، ارْحَمْنِي رَحْمَةً تُغْنِينِي بِهَا عَنْ رَحْمَةِ مَنْ سِوَاكَ

Allahumma Malikal Mulk, Tu-til mulka man tasha u watanzi’ul mulka mimman tasha u, wa tu’izzu man tasha u, watudhillu man tasha u, biyadikal khayru innaka ‘ala kulli shay in Qadir Rahmanad Dunya wal Akhirati tu’tihima man tasha u wa tamna’u minhuma man tasha u irhamni rahmatan  tughni ni biha ‘an Rahmati man siwak

Translation: O Allah! Possessor of the kingdom, You give kingdom to whom You desire, and You snatch kingdom from whom You want. You honour who You will and You disgrace who you will. In Your Hand is all good. Verily, You have power over all things. [O] Most Merciful of this world and the Hereafter, You grant these things to whomsoever You wish and You deprive whomsoever You wish. Shower upon me such mercy, which will make me independent from the mercy of those besides You.’

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ الْهَمِّ وَالْحزنِ ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ الْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ الْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ غَلَبَةِ الدَّيْنِ وَقَهْرِ الرِّجَالِ

 Allahumma Inni a’udhubika minal hammi wal huzni wa a’udhubika minal ‘Ajzi wal kasli wa a’udhubika minal jubni  wal bukhl wa a’udhubika min ghalabatid dayni wa qahrir rijal

Translation: O Allah! I seek refuge in you from worry and grief and I seek refuge in you from inability and laziness, and I seek refuge in you from cowardice and miserliness and I seek refuge in you from overpowering debts and from the overpowering of man.

Together with these Duas, you should stay away from sin, and continuously make Istighfaar. Insha Allah, Allah will help you soon.

As for the OCD, just wash each limb thrice, to a maximum of seven times. Thereafter, even if the devil whispers that the limb is not fully wet, just ignore the doubt. Allah will accept the limb as being fully washed.

Whilst you may not have any support in your community or you local Masjid, with the internet today, the world has become a global village. You may keep in contact via fellow students using social media. With that, try to discipline yourself to become such that you do not need others to spur you on to excel.

Having said the above, please remember that the devils objective is to make you despondent and depressed. Please do not allow him to get the better of you. Constantly remember Allah, and do not lose hope.

The devil will also bring hurdles before you, but you need to see how you can rise above all that, and still please your creator. Every person has different problems and face different challenges. That is this world. It is not a place of comfort and luxury. Rather, this is the place to see how nothing becomes an obstacle in linking us with our Creator.

We pray that Allah makes it easy for you.

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