Breastfeeding
Question
Assalammualaikum. I can’t speak English so well but I will try my best. I really love my czn and he love me too. We did everything together I regret that but it’s happened now. He told his mother that he wants to get married with me. But his 2nd mother told him that she gave me milk and to him also. My mother never told me that even my father don’t know about this. Now we really love each other we can’t leave each other. Plz answer me what to do
Answer
Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
As Muslims, we succumb to the laws of Shariah, and give preference to Islamic rulings over our own desires. After all, our lives are tests.
Firstly, since you did not know that this boy was your foster brother, it was not permissible for you to keep any contact with him. When a strange boy and girl keep contact, the devil comes between them. It is very easy for them then to commit sins.
Now that you have been told that you have been told that the two of you are foster siblings, you should still maintain a distance from each other, due to the intimate feelings.
If you both suckled within the first two years of your lives, it will not be permissible for you to marry each other. The fact that your mother did not inform anyone does not have any impact on the ruling.
We strongly advise you to accept the laws of Shariah and follow the commandments of Allah. Insha Allah, Allah will bless both of you with someone better.
It is not permissible for you two to get married.
يحرم على الرضيع أبواه من الرضاع وأصولهما وفروعهما من النسب والرضاع جميعا حتى أن المرضعة لو ولدت من هذا الرجل أو غيره قبل هذا الإرضاع أو بعده أو أرضعت رضيعا أو ولد لهذا الرجل من غير هذه المرأة قبل هذا الإرضاع أو بعده أو أرضعت امرأة من لبنه رضيعا فالكل إخوة الرضيع وأخواته وأولادهم أولاد إخوته وأخواته وأخو الرجل عمه وأخته عمته وأخو المرضعة خاله وأختها خالته وكذا في الجد والجدة وتثبت حرمة المصاهرة في الرضاع حتى أن امرأة الرجل حرام على الرضيع وامرأة الرضيع حرام على الرجل وعلى هذا القياس إلا في المسألتين (الفتاوى الهندية – 1/ 343)
And Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala knows best.