Just the word talaaq
Aoa,
Im 20 years old, my knowledge of islam was really weak yh i got married laat year to the woman i loved i went against everyone for her but in the end we got married we wre happt but all of a sudden i lost my job after like 4 months then i had on and off temporary jobs and in tha period of time my wife ws really stresssed anf i was also… since i was small i had an issue of shouting when angry shouting really loud shouting stuff i didnt even know the meaning off.. like this we were fighting and i said only the word talaaq 3 times my exact wording was “u wanna leave me okay den talaaq talaaaq talaaq” i realised asap nd try to sort things out but her parents wanted to know from molanas if she still in my nikah… i wanted ti clarify yh that according to my parents we dont believe in a particular sect of islaam we just follow quraan and prophet.. Any way we explained the situation to 3 different Molanas even the molana who read our nikah they said it is counted as one divorce so i have 3 months time to convince her but her family goes that talaaq is happend according to them they are not letting me talk to her I really love her really want her back and i will do anything in my power to get her back im ready to evn get killed for her my love is really deep and profound but i never kbew the consquences of sayin talaaq three times tbh i only said it coz i use to see it in movies…. nd if islamically thre is an option according to different scholars even dr. Zakir naik nd also the 3molanas we spoken too then thre is still chance of geting her back…
Questions are:
1- Who shall my wife follow wht our 3 molanas are saying even the person who read our nikah is sayin that only one divorced happened nd we have 3 months time or her parents??
2- they might be from a different sect by i had nikah with her so her belief shud be same as mmine so shudnt she listen to our molanas?
3- Islam is justice i want justice i do not want my house to breeak neither does she but her parents are not listenin to us we are also very young….
We have 3 people who wil be aaccountable to allah in the hereafter if they guide us wrong so shudnt her family believe that and give me 3 months times to get her back as according to our scholars 3 times or 100 times talaaaq in one setting is still one not 3, And my intention never been of leavin her if Allah gave us a solution dont you tjink her family should follow that?
JzkAllah
Answer
Assalāmuʿalaykum Wa Raḥmatullāhi Wa Barakātuh
Kindly refer to the following article which establishes, from the Qur’an and Sunnah, that three Talāqs are counted as three and also rebuts the view of those who claim that it is counted as one:
https://www.askimam.org/public/question_detail/17287
Furthermore, the answers to your questions are as follows:
- Your wife, as well as yourself and others, will follow the view that three Talaqs are counted as three, based on the evidences provided in the article referenced above which is the mainstream view of the global network of Islamic scholars and jurists which also includes those who are not associated to any ‘sect’, or rather ‘any school of thought’. Such view is also in line with the teachings of the Qur’an and Sunnah.
- The fact that you married her does not mean that she should follow you in matters of jurisprudence, as these are two separate issues.
- It should be noted that Islam is just, and justice is for one to bear the consequences of their actions and not try to find some loophole in order to divert from the implications of one’s own actions.
It is not as simple as saying ‘because these three scholars said this, let us practice on it and perhaps put them in the spotlight on the Day of Judgement if we have to be questioned by Allāh ﷺ regarding it”.
This is very dangerous and detrimental to one’s spiritual health since the true nature of that view has been rebutted and considered void. The question also arises, “are we following the view of these three scholars because it fixes our situation or because it is the ruling of the Sharīʿah (which in reality is not the true ruling to go by)?”.
If we are following the Sharīʿah, then to know well that the marriage has terminated because three Talaqs have occurred, but if one is merely looking to remedy the situation he is in because of his own actions, then he will follow that view presented to him which conforms to his needs even though it may contradict the Sharīʿah.