If your parents reject a man just because he is younger than you with no other reasons what should you do?
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh,
A man of which I knew when I was little & grew up with we always loved each other ever since we were little but that man is 2 years younger than me and later when we grew up he proposed to me, my parents want to reject him because he is younger than me even though i really love him and was happy for his proposal. what should I do in that situation? since if someone else proposed to me I will still be thinking about him.
Answer
Wa’alaykum as Salām wa raḥmatullāhi wa barakātuhu,
Marriage is sensitive, and besides just being your husband, that person will become the son in law of your parents. Hence, it is important to take the blessings of your parents.
Firstly, you should make Du’ā to Allāh that he blesses you with a spouse who will be good for you. At time, we assume someone might be good for us, but in reality they will not be compatible.
Second, your feelings and thoughts should be discussed with your parents.
If you are able to speak to your parents, you should explain to them why you feel that this boy will be in your best interest. You can explain to them the positives that you know about, his character, and why you assume that it will be best to spend your life with him.
If you cannot discuss with your parents directly, consider writing a letter to them, sending them an email, or even just writing to them over Whatsapp.
If that is not possible, then communicate to them via another person.