Grudge
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullah
Mufti Sahab,
How to remove grudge or enmity against someone from our heart who has wronged us and not even asked for forgiveness?
JazakAllah khaira
Answer
WaʿAlaykumus Salām Wa Raḥmatullāhi Wa Barakātuh
We would advise the following:
- Acknowledge the evil of grudges and enmity
- Become remorseful
- Forgive like how you wish for Allāh ﷻ to forgive you
- Increase the remembrance of Allāh ﷻ (i.e., Thikr)
- Pray for the person who has wronged you
- Give charity on their behalf
- Understand that life is too short to bear grudges and hold enmity