Conditional Talaaq (Divorce) in extreme anger 3 Talaaq (Divorce) in one continuous line
Due to issues with my relatives, 2 years back my wife showed her wish to get divorce from me and she was to stay at her mother home to meet them. I told her to think for 1 week and then tell me your decision. After 2 days she told me that I have analyzed every thing and that state of mind was just in anger. She told me that ups and down are in the life of every one and she cannot live without me and we are happily married with 2 kids from last 10 years. She has a low temperament and starts shouting.
I also have low temperament and get extremely angry but tried to control my anger from last 15 years and to an extent I had controlled but after having the problem high sugar, I again have low temperament and get extremely angry.
during our recent fight with word of mouth, she was continuously misbehaving and shouting I told her to reduce your volume and donot shout but she continuously shouting at me. During extreme anger I assumed she may want to have divorce and marry someone else. I shouted and told her what you want you want Divorce? I give you divorce, I divorce you, I divorce you. She replied that I never wanted to have divorce and I have never asked you to give me divorce from last 2 years then how you are saying like this. I told her I was in extreme anger and was not in my own control I thought you want it but I never had the intention to give her divorce. After slip of tongue I was surprised how I can say like this.
Question # 1
Conditional Talaq:
My words of Talaq were based on the condition that she wanted to have divorce but she told that she never wanted to have Talaq (Divorce). Please advice if the condition was not fulfilled then what is the status of Talaq (Divorce).
Question # 2
3 Talaq at 1 time continuous sentence:
I had spoken these words in one sitting in one line what is the status of Talaq?
I give you divorce, I divorce you, I divorce you.
Question # 3
I was in extreme anger due to her continuous shouting and assuming that she wants to have divorce whereas in reality she never wanted so.
Please advice on the status of Divorce.
Answer
Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
Even though you asked your wife if she wants the divorces you clearly uttered the words of divorce thereafter.
Since you clearly issued three Talaaqs to your wife, the three Talaaqs are valid and considered as Talaaq Mughallazah (permanently irrevocable divorce).The implications thereof being that the Nikaah terminated at the point when you issued the three divorces and you cannot live as husband and wife together. You should immediately separate from your wife. Your wifes ‘Iddah has commenced from the time you uttered the words.
As for your anger, it will depend on the degree of your anger.
If you were so angry that you had no control over your senses at the time of uttering those statements, then the divorces issued in that state will not be effective. Here you will have to be truthful between yourself and Allah. If were aware of what you were uttering, then all three divorces are effective.
References
الطَّلَاقُ مَرَّتَانِ ۖ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ ۗ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَنْ تَأْخُذُوا مِمَّا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْئًا إِلَّا أَنْ يَخَافَا أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّهِ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّهِ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا فِيمَا افْتَدَتْ بِهِ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَعْتَدُوهَا ۚ وَمَنْ يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ اللَّهِ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ {229} فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا تَحِلُّ لَهُ مِنْ بَعْدُ حَتَّىٰ تَنْكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ ۗ فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَنْ يَتَرَاجَعَا إِنْ ظَنَّا أَنْ يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّهِ ۗ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ يُبَيِّنُهَا لِقَوْمٍ يَعْلَمُونَ {230} (القران – 2:229-230)
و في الخانية: رجل قال لامرءته ” أنت طالق أنت طالق أنت طالق” و قال : عنيت بالأولى الطلاق و بالثانية و الثالثة إفهامها، صدق ديانة و في القضاء طلقت ثلاثا. (الفتاوى التاتارخانية – 430/ 4)
أَنْت طَالِقٌ ثَلَاثًا مِنْ هَذَا الْقَيْدِ تَطْلُقُ ثَلَاثًا وَلَا يُصَدَّقُ فِي الْقَضَاءِ كَمَا فِي الْمُحِيطِ (البحر الرائق – 3/ 276)
وَإِنْ كَانَ الطَّلَاقُ ثَلَاثًا فِي الْحُرَّةِ وَثِنْتَيْنِ فِي الْأَمَةِ لَمْ تَحِلَّ لَهُ حَتَّى تَنْكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ نِكَاحًا صَحِيحًا وَيَدْخُلَ بِهَا ثُمَّ يُطَلِّقَهَا أَوْ يَمُوتَ عَنْهَا كَذَا فِي الْهِدَايَةِ
(الفتاوى الهندية – 1/ 473)
قلت : وللحافظ ابن القيم الحنبلي رسالة في طلاق الغضبان قال فيها : إنه على ثلاثة أقسام : أحدها أن يحصل له مبادئ الغضب بحيث لا يتغير عقله ويعلم ما يقول ويقصده ، وهذا لا إشكال فيه .
والثاني أن يبلغ النهاية فلا يعلم ما يقول ولا يريده ، فهذا لا ريب أنه لا ينفذ شيء من أقواله .
الثالث من توسط بين المرتبتين بحيث لم يصر كالمجنون فهذا محل النظر ، والأدلة على عدم نفوذ أقواله .ا هـ .
ملخصا من شرح الغاية الحنبلية ، لكن أشار في الغاية إلى مخالفته في الثالث حيث قال : ويقع الطلاق من غضب خلافا لابن القيم ا هـ وهذا الموافق عندنا لما مر في المدهوش (رد المحتار، ص 244، ج 3)