Is it necessary that we memorize Asma ul Husna in a chronological order?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
It is better to learn Asma ul Husna in order but not necessary.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Respected Sir,
I am a married man with three children. I am 36 years old, and I have been married for 8 years. Last year, I fell in love with a girl who is 25 years old and single. Initially, we knew each other as acquaintances, but slowly we grew closer and developed feelings for each other. She likes me, and I like her, and now we want to get married to avoid engaging in forbidden activities.
I was ready for a nikah, but she felt it wasn’t the right time. She needed time to think. Now, she believes she can’t live without me. I haven’t told my family the full story because I fear their resistance to another marriage. I seek guidance through Istikhara to determine if she is the right choice for me. I perform two nafil (voluntary) prayers, read dua (supplication), and then sleep. After sleeping, in a dream, I hear a sound, and I feel that I should stay with her for now, without rushing into anything more serious. The girl has also performed Istikhara twice. The first time, she dreamt of being on a ship during a big storm with her family. She wanted to travel on my ship but ended up seeing me on a white horse, smiling, and riding with her.In her second Istikhara, she wrote two names, mine and another person’s, and after sleeping on it, she randomly picked one page, and on that page, the name was mine in the morning.
Now, she wants us to discuss our relationship and the possibility of nikah with someone before announcing it to our families. She loves me and doesn’t want to leave me, and I feel the same way. However, she wants us to explore the significance of her recurring dreams, which often involve finding peace with her family. But as I appear in her dreams, her family gets into a storm or trouble, but at the end, she saves her family and sees me standing nearby. She thinks that in her dreams, when I come, her family gets disturbed but she is not hurt, only disrupted. In her last dream, she saw a monster, and when I came and stood with her, we ran to save ourselves from it. On our way, a few good people stopped us and blamed us, saying that these monsters appeared because of our activities, as if we were trying to meet forcefully in good places.
Nevertheless, both of us find solace in each other’s presence. Initially, we held hands and hugged when we were close to each other, but now our interactions are limited to phone calls and romantic conversations. We respect each other and haven’t crossed any boundaries physically or virtually.
Our primary concern is whether she is the right person for me in a nikah, and vice versa. If you require more details, please let us know. We are profoundly confused about our future. She has a troubled past, including her parents’ fights and a traumatic incident where she was molested by another person. These past experiences have left her anxious about the future, leading to overthinking. She often compares her current situation with her past, worrying that it might repeat itself. I assured her that I am committed to marrying her and would like to discuss our intentions with our parents, but she insists on consulting religious authorities and considering her dreams and circumstances before making a decision about whether to wait for each other or part ways.
Kindly provide us with your guidance and advice; we are in dire need of clarity regarding our future.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Respected brother,
Interaction with a non mahram in this manner is a grave sin, haram, triggers the wrath of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala and deprivation from barakah.
We recommend that you stop talking to her and repent to Allah. Meanwhile, assess the emotional, social and financial situation of all the stake holders. Discuss the issue with your families. Second marriage is not easy. There is a lot of resistance if you can bear the resistance and all goes in favour of marriage then marry her otherwise, leave her alone and find love at home.
The answer to your istikhara is the decision that you will make in the days to come.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Wat should I do.sometimes i get shirk whisspers. Something just comes in my heart
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Dispell off and ignore these thoughts. They are from shaytan to ruin your life and steer you away from the purpose of this life, ie to please Allah and work for your aakhirah.
If you don’t ignore these thoughts they might turn into psychological disorders.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
I am someone who is suffering from a lot of thoughts/waswas of Divorce and a friend asked me if the internet is working and to reply to him I said yes. Before saying yes a question came to my head that are you divorcing your wife?
does this count as divorce?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Respected brother,
This does not constitute a divorce. Ignore these wasawis. They are from shaytan.
We would suggest that you seek professional advice from a Muslim psychologist.
Read adhkaar eg:
أَعُوْذُ بِاللّٰهِ مِنَ الشَّیْطٰنِ الرَّجِیْمِ
I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan.
اَللّٰهُمَّ إِنِّيْ أَعُوْذُبِكَ مِنْ هَمَزَاتِ الشَّیَاطِیْنِ وَأَعُوْذُبِكَ رَبِّ مِنْ أَنْ یَّحْضُرُوْنَ
.”
O Allah, I seek refuge in you from the incitements of the devils, and I seek refuge in you, my Lord, from their presence.
اَللّٰهُمَّ اجْعَلْ وَسَاوِسَ قَلْبِيْ خَشْیَتَكَ وَ ذِکْرَكَ وَاجْعَلْ هِمَّتِيْ وَ هَوَايَ فِیْمَا تُحِبُّ وَ تَرْضٰی
O Allah, replace the worries of my heart with Your fear and remembrance. And divert my sorrows and desires into deeds that you like and are pleased with.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Asalamualaikum,I want to know if keeping the names
Naira
Saniya
Hiba
Are permissible.What criteria should one look at for naming their child and could you please recommend some
Jazakallah
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Wa ‘alaykum us-salāmu wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Barak Allahu feek.
Naira is not a good name meaning wise. It means hatred,flame, enmity and other similar meanings.
Saniya ثانية starting from ث means second women and Hiba means gift. Both are good names.
The criteria for naming children is to name them with names of Allah preceding by Abd, prophets, the companions and other pious people.
Some beautiful girl names are Aisha, Khadijah, Maryam, Zainab, Khawlah, Fatimah etc.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Assalamualikum Wa Rahmatullah,
Dear Mufti Sab, I have a questions regarding divorce which is haunting me all the time. Before I begin, Note that since very young age I have issues with talking to myself. I think about things that happens to me and talk to myself without anyone’s presence. Sometimes I just think and talk to myself in my mind without moving my lips and sometimes I talk to myself silently while moving my lips.
So Sometime I have arguments with my wife. Later on when I go outside of home and think about the issues with my wife – I say things to my wife out of anger. So sometime when I get angry – I say divorce to my wife 3 times in my mind and without moving my lips. In other words – I said divorce to my wife 3 times in my mind with uttering the word on my lips.
But there was one time I feel that I was talking to myself and I was angry – And I uttered the word divorce to my wife 3 times silently while moving my lips. Note that as I am writing to you I do not remember 100% that If I actually uttered the word 3 times silently while moving my lips or If I said it in my mind without moving my lips. My mind says I moved my lips but again my mind is not 100% sure. What should I do? Did the talaq happened?
Also I know there is two opinion. One is saying talaq 3 times in a row will regard as one talaq. And other opinion is saying talaq 3 times will count as actually 3 talaq. So which one should follow?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Wa ‘alaykum us-salāmu wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Respected Brother,
1: Mere thoughts of divorce or uttering the words of divorce absentmindedly does not constitute a divorce.
In your situation divorce has not happened. Your nikah is still valid. since, you suffer from lack of concentration and self talk.
Although, we would suggest that you try to focus and treat your condition.
2: The opinion of three divorces in a row as three is the opinion of all companions, the four jurists and majority scholars as they understood it from Quran and Sunnah. It had been the rule of land since Khilafah Rashidah and no companion opposed it.
The proponents of the minority opinion of three divorces in one row has this understanding from one hadith of Syeduna Ibn Abbas رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ, from whom there are traditions where he considered three divorces as three.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Assllaamoallaikum Respected Mufthi Saab,
I hope you are well and in good health, I need some guidance with the following questions please and will be very grateful if you could explain about the subject.
Questions:
Entertainment and Fun in Islaam
The ahadeeth that refer to entertainment and fun in islam, like the hadeeth of Rasoolullah ﷺ showing display on the day of Eid to Hadhrath Aisha [ Radhiullah Tha’laa Anhaa ], and other hadeeth of Rasoolullah ﷺ asking Hadhrath Aisha [ Radhiullah Tha’laa Anhaa ] of the horse with two wings (made out of rags), and the playing of Hadhrath Aisha [ Radhiullah Tha’laa Anhaa ] with dolls with her friends . Etc.
1 – What sort of fun and entertainment can we give children from a young age if they cannot watch cartoons (on youtube) or the tv. Can you please give some suggestions?
2 – Is it permissible for little ones to play with dolls with pictures?
Sufism
3 – In verse number 55 of Surath ul Maaidah: ” Your only friend is Allah, then His Messenger and those who believe, who establish salaah and pay zakaah and bow before Allah” Is this ayath not a clear indication to the muqaamaths of walaayath in terms of the sufis, of fana fi shaikh, fana fi rasool and fana fillah? If i have not the correct understanding please do correct me.
4 – Some sufis dedicate a portion of their life in zikr, mujaahidaath, or seeking knowledge. How is it to do this, as it comes that some saints spent a portion of their life just doing one thing, like zikr or a certain mujaahidah until it was told to them to now direct your attention towards the service of creation or ask for whatever they would want. How is this possible? Can you give me a better understanding of this please?
Will be very grateful. Warm Regards, Adeel.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Wa ‘alaykum us-salāmu wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Respected parent,
Alhamdulilah, as always basking in Allah’s infinite mercy and blessings.
May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala bless you always abundantly.
We commend you on your urge to raise your children as an act of worship and obligation.
Our children are our amanah that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala has bestowed upon us and we are answerable for this responsibility to our lord.
Childhood is a time of making of a responsible, righteous Allah conscious Muslim, a valuable member of society.
It’s the time to nurture a child through love, time and bonding, bonding to Allah, parents and society.
1: Our suggestion would be to give your time to your children. Cut down on other chores as much as possible, domestic or financial. Rather than being busy in other less important or unimportant work and leaving children to the media, parents should be present for their children. Nothing can equal the making of a fulfilled member of society. Play with them at home, read to them, keep them engaged in house work, take them out into nature,to play with their friends etc.
Children can watch and play games that make them strong and active physically, emotionally and mentally. Our beloved prophet Muhammad ﷺ had even Aisha رَضِيَ اللهُ عنها a young female watch the Abyssinians practicing warfare.
2: Children can play with toys that are not fully structured like humans or animals or are without pictures as picture or statue making is prohibited.
The messenger ﷺ said:
“The most severely punished on the day of judgement will be those who make animate pictures”.
3: In verse 55 Surah Maidah, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala enumerates that our real protectors, helpers and friends are Allah, His messenger ﷺ and the believers who performs Salah, give zakah (charity) and bow down in prayer and not Jews.
4: Sufism or Tazkiyah the Quranic name or Ihsaan the name given to Sufism in hadith is a part of the job for which our beloved prophet Muhammad ﷺ was sent.
Let’s understand Tazkiyah or Ihsaan from this hadith:
قال: ما الإحسان؟ قال: أن تعبد الله كأنك تراه، فإن لم تكن تراه فإنه يراك
صحيح البخاري (50)
Translation: Jibrail Alayhis Salaam said: What is Ihsan. “He (Nabi ﷺ) replied, “It is that you should worship Allah as though you can see Him, (if it is not possible for you to worship Allah in that manner, then worship Allah remembering) he sees you (for though you cannot see Him yet He sees you).” (Sahih Al-Bukhari: 50)
The essence of worship is that we worship Allah with Ihsan. Attaining the quality of complete Ihsan in ones worship requires many years of training and struggling against ones Nafs (desires), along with fulfilling all the commands of Shariah. Before learning complete Ihsan, a person goes through many stages of concentration, such as no concentration at all, concentration with little devotion, concentration with awareness of ones surroundings. The Mashaaikh of Tasawwuf, who specialise in the states and stages of ones Nafs have named these different stages for ease and understanding. One of these stages is fanaa or annihilation or total absorption in the remembrance of Allah.
when a Mu’min makes an ardent effort on himself for many years, under a competent guide and worships Allah with total concentration and devotion, he also attains levels of concentration and devotion, wherein a person becomes oblivious of everything besides Allah.
It is such a worship which we should aspire to attain and make an effort for.
As you are very much interested in spiritually uplifting yourself, we would recommend finding yourself a Shariah following righteous teacher, one who is followed by religious scholars.
May Allah make us among his devoted servants and grant us His Rida (pleasure) through Ihsaan. Aameen
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
A Salafi/Wahabi said it’s haram to say Kosher meat is not permissible because the Prophet SAW ate meat from Jews. He then gave me 2 hadiths which are sahih of the prophet saw eating meat from non Muslims one of which was from a Jewish women who invited him to eat. Can you please clarify jzk
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
The general ruling is that any any animal slaughtered by Muslims, or genuine Jews and Christians is halal; provided Allah’s name is pronounced during slaughter and the veins are cut with a sharp tool.
Allah Taãla says in the Noble Qurãn:
‘Today I have made permissible for you pure things and the food of those who
were given the Book (Ahlul-Kitaab) is also Halaal for you’. (Qurãn 5:4)
Another ayat explains:
“Do not eat unless Allah’s name has been taken and this practice (of not taking Allah’s name) is transgression’ (Quran 6:121)
Meaning that the Zabeeha of the Ahlul-kitaab is permissible only if the name of
Allah is pronounced at the time of slaughtering.
This was the practice of the Ahlul-kitaab of the time of our beloved prophet ﷺ so the Muslims ate their zabeeha.
The Ahlul-kitaab of today are atheists. There is no guarantee that they take the
name of Allah/God during slaughtering an animal. Hence, they cannot be trusted in matters pertaining to Halaal/Haraam. Due to this uncertainty the Jurists are unanimous that it is not permissible to consume doubtful meat.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh My private parts are really itching and I heard if you touch you private parts you have to make to clean yours hands but im scratching it with my pants so since it im guessing did not touch the private parts do you still have to wash you hands or make wudu?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Wa ‘alaykum us-salāmu wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Respected brother,
Touching private parts covered or bare does not break wudu.
It’s better to wash hands for cleanliness.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
My mother’s a government employee and gets the benefits such as benevolent fund if her son/daughter scores 90% marks in exams in 9th,10th,11th,12th grade. I scored 90% in 9,10,11,12 grade and got the amount for 10,12 grade. When i went to receive the amount the person said you can get your amount for 11 grade too if you apply late too which i did and got the amount for 11 grade too, but in return he asked some amount from it in favor, will it be considered haram to get my amount although i claimed it late and had to give some amount from it to the other person to get my amount.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Dear student,
Congratulations!
May you excell in the hereafter too!
If you were entitled to get the reward even later then the money you got is Halal. Otherwise Haram if late claim were not to be entertained.
The money the official took is bribe, a major sin and Haram. He is being extremely sinful for this act.
In extreme conditions, one can give bribe for his rights but this was not an extreme case. Hence, it’s better you repent and/ or give some charity because you should have tried to get your reward some other way eg by first making dua to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala then taking help from some acquaintance etc and by being patient had it gotten delayed or had you been deprived of it.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best